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Marriage and the Manosphere

February 19, 2012
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A lot of game and men’s rights bloggers are skeptical about marriage. They have a point. The law is imbalanced, and favours women. Some of the stories are shocking.

But if you avoid divorce then there’s no problem. And avoiding divorce shouldn’t be all that hard for a quality guy. You have to pick a good woman in the first place, and then be the kind of man she can love. A man should welcome this challenge.

Men who reject marriage on the grounds that it’s dangerous reveal a lot about themselves. They show that they don’t believe they can find a good woman, win her over, and keep her. If they’re game advocates, then they show in addition that they don’t have all that much faith in their own product.

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Update: It seems OneSTDV wrote something similar about ‘the anti-family attitude of the manosphere’ last year:

While I surely sympathize with their concerns, especially how these injustices connect to the large framework of feminism and female supremacism, they sound like whining losers. What they’re basically saying, “there are risks to getting married and having a family and I’m too afraid to take on any of these risks.” Funny that a blogosphere enamored with masculinity can’t even discern their own female-like neuroticism.

6 Comments leave one →
  1. February 19, 2012 5:14 pm

    A liar thinks everyone else is a liar, and a thief thinks everyone else is a thief.

    How could they believe in good women?

  2. Vagabond permalink
    February 23, 2012 2:36 pm

    Point is not that…even if you don’t divorce – the compromises, and the effort you have to make to keep your marriage alive have to be worth the rewards. Increasingly, it only makes sense for “quality” or men in the elite. For most average, (and even above average men) – marriage is a bad deal. Quality women are a rare species these days, and the rest are not worth it.

    • February 23, 2012 2:47 pm

      You’ll see that I don’t really disagree with you—but that’s why I say that you reveal a lot about yourself if you think marriage isn’t worth it.

      • Vagabond permalink
        February 23, 2012 7:09 pm

        Let me clarify – by average man – I meant the social class you are born in – Not in the sense of quality. You can be an exceptional person, but if you are in middle class – you are most likely completely screwed, especially in terms of marriage.

      • February 24, 2012 2:33 pm

        @Vagabond. That seems rather grim to me, but it probably varies by situation and location. I’ve always been a church attender, so at least to me it’s always seemed that there were plenty of marriageable women around. In my circles it’s usually the women complaining about the lack of men.

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