Choosing to be Gay
Some actress from some TV show recently decided she was a lesbian:
For me, it is a choice. I understand that for many people it’s not, but for me it’s a choice, and you don’t get to define my gayness for me. A certain section of our community is very concerned that it not be seen as a choice, because if it’s a choice, then we could opt out…. I am very annoyed about this issue. Why can’t it be a choice? Why is that any less legitimate? It seems we’re just ceding this point to bigots who are demanding it, and I don’t think that they should define the terms of the debate.
She’s been getting in a lot of trouble for this. But she’s right. The whole choice thing is really irrelevant.
If there’s nothing wrong with homosexuality (as the critics obviously think), then why is it supposed to be bad to choose to be homosexual? And the fact that something is chosen doesn’t mean that it’s somehow trivial or unimportant.
On the other hand, the fact that you didn’t choose something isn’t a moral free pass. People don’t choose to be sexually attracted to children. Such people are really very unfortunate. But the fact that pedophiles can’t easily (if at all) change their feelings doesn’t at all mean that we should embrace pedophilia as normal or legitimate. It just means that they’re depraved.
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There may well be more than one cause of homosexuality (Jim Goad rounds up some studies in Taki’s Magazine). I also suspect that women are a lot more open to experimentation in this area. Lesbianism may well be a very different thing than male homosexuality.